The status update and matching tweet at midnight “so, I just turned 25”, the ‘Adventure Time: Jake’s Birthday’ YouTube clip from the ‘Joshua and Margaret Investigations’ episode, the impending doom (just kidding) of being an actual adult and not realising when that happened.
I had a nice birthday; it was a relaxing day because we were both quite tired. We did go out for a walk down by the river, something we weren't able to do while my parents were around as we had planned so many other activities with them. I think next time we’ll take them for a wander along the river bank. We watched ‘Modern Family’ and a programme called 'Ripper Street' on Amazon Prime. It's based in Victorian England so even though the title suggests it'll be quite graphic (Jack the Ripper), it's actually a really interesting drama similar to 'Sherlock'. I also watched 'Adventure Time' while I did the dishes and attempted to clean the kitchen while my SO went out to get multi-coloured balloons and fancy birthday cake. He also bought me a fizzy Vimto. He left the price on and I was a bit shocked at how much more it costs simply because it's imported. It was made in Warrington though which we thought was funny! I also received a pretty gift box with lots of things inside and a giant bar of Milka which I thought was going to be a multipack with lots of little bars until I opened it! We ate pizza for dinner cooked in our new oven. When we used our old oven it just smelled like gas but not this time, this time the kitchen actually smelled like food!
The title of this post is ‘Mid-Twenties, Now What?’ I did a little searching online and I’ve discovered several articles relating to being in your mid-twenties. Most of them are lists (some with photos or GIFs) related to things you should have done by the time you’re in your mid-twenties. Others include ‘25 Things That Happen to You in Your Mid-Twenties’, ‘13 Signs You've Somehow Reached The Awkward Mid-20s Phase’ and ‘16 Things That Make You Surprisingly Happy In Your Mid-Twenties’ to name but a few, none of this is exactly high quality literature…
There also seems to be some confusion as to what mid-twenties actually are, I would say they start when you’re half way between 20 and 30, so 25, that’s the middle isn't it? Most people think of it more as being between 24 and 26. This would mean that right now I'm in my mid-mid-twenties.
Here is a list of 10 things I personally like about being in my mid-twenties:
1. Leaving home young and preferring to live alone doesn't affect me as much as I thought it would now that I live with my SO. I am slightly OCD about making sure the apartment is tidy and occasionally needing my own space but I don’t think being organised or contemplative is a necessarily bad thing.
2. Friends, most of mine are online and although perhaps I don’t communicate with them as much as I should, I know they’re there and I think they know that if they need me, I'm here (albeit I'm on the other side of a screen). It’s the 21st century, it’s relatively normal.
3. Being able to look back on my life thus far and feel like although some of the paths I chose growing up were the wrong ones, somewhere along the way, I chose the right ones. Perhaps I took a detour down bad decision lane as a teenager and now I'm back on track.
4. My relationship with my family is stronger than it has ever been and I know that despite any arguments we've had in the past or might have in future, they always have my best interests at heart. They love me. I love them.
5. Not really caring about what other people think of me, I've had enough of that. I can’t please everyone and there will always be those who dislike you for no apparent reason. There will always be people you dislike too. There’s no need to pretend you like a person if you can’t stand them. Don’t let anyone live rent free in your head; if you get nothing from them and they get nothing from you, what are they doing in there?
6. Developing a sense of self. Although I find this one particularly difficult, I seem to be making progress. No matter how many times your confidence is knocked back, at some point, you’ll be fine. I'm not there yet but I know one day, I will be.
7. Finding time to learn and pursuing my dreams even though I have to work full time in order to survive. We’re forced to learn in environments we don’t like as children but as adults we can learn wherever and however we feel most comfortable. I can't wait to start my PhD in October.
8. Being a good teacher.
9. Not growing up. Who decided I can’t watch cartoons, read comic books, play board games, sing or dance foolishly, laugh in public, read books on the floor, jump on the sofa when I'm excited, get upset easily or cuddle a stuffed toy or pillow because I'm an adult? We should be able to do whatever we want, whatever makes us comfortable, be whoever we are and wear whatever we want without being judged by others. I'm no longer ashamed to admit that I have several child-like tendencies. I don’t mind any of them. Why should I? Why should any of us?
10. Shopping online and cooking with confidence. Nailed it.